A common reason for feeling inferior and not feeling successful is if you are always being criticized by others.

Unfortunately, what people who are massive critics don't realize is that their personal set of values and beliefs are not the only true and important values and beliefs in the world.

It is natural that values and beliefs are different from one person to another. Yes, you may share some values and beliefs. But you are bound to have values and beliefs that are different from people who are closest to you.

This is just part of the human journey.

But what do you do, if you are living with someone who never stops criticizing you?

Especially if you don't have any strategies to help change that critical person. What steps can you take to stop their negativity from derailing your life so heavily?

It’s impossible to share the complete step-by-step techniques in a short post like this, but I can get you started on the right path.

1. Watch out for the overcompensation trap

After living with a criticizer for years, you may not realize that you have habituated the tendency to compensate for a lot of things you do.

For example, if your partner is a perfectionist who criticizes you for not doing things perfectly, You might notice now that you get upset and agitated when you write a simple email at work. You never used to be that way, but now you have to read the email 20 times before you feel comfortable sending it.

This is the overcompensation trap at work...

And the more you fall for it, the more it will control you. and it will make you do too much of everything to avoid negative judgement from others. Which will impact your efficiency and time management negatively

And to avoid this trap, all you do is spend some time listing out everything you do to compensate. Then devise alternative actions to reduce the overcompensation. You would be surprised about how much time and energy just this one move can save you.

2. Cultivate the habit of seeing the positive aspects of their criticism

"No, I’m not being a downer. I just want to help you improve and see where you need to grow."

When you read criticism, it’s like reading a negative comment about yourself.

You can feel like you’re not good enough or smart enough or capable enough...

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the negativity.

But if you can learn to embrace

the criticism and use it as a catalyst for growth, it’s much easier to take on the challenge of a negative person.

3. Focus more on your growth

When you have a negative person in your life, it is all too easy

to make them your sole focus, even if you don't intend to.

Hence it is crucial that you take a step back and examine your own motivations.

Have you become solely focused on proving your difficult person wrong, or are you spending your precious time doing things that will actually move you forward in life?

Focusing more on your growth gives you the upper hand in this relationship.

It means you don't need to prove anything to anyone. And that is the best place to be when you have someone like that in your life.

Now, If you've found this quick post useful...

And you want to learn more strategies for surviving the incessant criticism of a difficult or uncaring family member who you have to live with...

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